We all know that flirting can be a great way to attract men and is also a fun way to boost your confidence and make you feel desirable, even it is largely superficial. Flirting with a guy you like can also give you a peek into his personality, sense of humor and intellect.
The only problem that some of my single clients seem to have in common is WHO they attract. It’s like biting into what appears to be a juicy Angus beef burger only to find out that it’s in fact a veggie burger.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s certainly nothing wrong with a veggie burger if that’s your thing (they’re actually quite delicious if I say so myself), but if you love or were expecting beef, a patty comprised of veggies is simply not going to cut it.
Women often ask me why does this happen?
Perhaps you take every precaution to make sure that you’re flirting with someone you find attractive, and seemingly someone that you’re interested in getting to know more, but no matter how hard you try to attract the man of your dreams, you end up dating Mr. Wrong.
Does this sound a bit like you?
It all boils down to your energy. The energy you exude when you’re flirting with others will draw a certain type of person to you.
So the number one hidden secret to attracting Mr. Compatible boils down to the type of energy you give out…
You see, every woman has the inner ability to draw in guys that they’re more compatible with, attracted to, and interested in. Your aura or energy sends off vibes that will ultimately attract certain men to you.
It’s like a magnetic field… though it’s not foolproof that you’ll attract the man of your dreams, you can minimize the chances that you attract… well… a dud or a man who simply wants something different to you.
Most women don’t use this hidden secret to its fullest potential. As a result, they end up stuck in a cycle of attracting the wrong guys and ending up in a poor relationship. Even worse, some of my clients feel as if it is all they deserve or all they’ll ever get.
This is so far from the truth.
The truth is if you want to learn how to make him want you, that is, the best types of men, you’ve got to tap into that inner feminine energy and use it to your advantage.
So how do you become acquainted with this sexy, sultry, and positive, energy inside of you?
Here are a few tips to help you master the laws of attraction and flirting like a pro:
- Vote For You
Would you date you? Do you like who you are? Do you stick up for yourself and honour YOU? Before you can attract a man of real significance you have to truly like and love yourself. When you’re so in love with who you are inside and out, men have no choice but to respect that (or hit the road jack). When you love yourself it shows outwardly in a positive and confident way that really speaks volumes to a guy. When you vote for you don’t need to prove anything to a man or pretend to be someone you’re not. You know you rock, you know what you’re worth, and you show this with heart.
- Get Crystal Clear
If you truly want a loving and healthy relationship then you must recognize the signs of men who want the same. You must also give off the vibe that you’re a woman who also wants this. Some women don’t believe that a man will be interested in her unless she exudes huge amounts of sexuality or unless she’s sexually suggestive. This could not be further from the truth. Sure, we are drawn to people we find sexy, though sexiness is not always obvious or sexual. For example, a smile can be super sexy, a woman in a long dress with little showing can be sexy, the no makeup natural look can be sexy (i.e. exercise gear at the supermarket), a playful energy, can be sexy.
- Don’t Confuse Assertion with Aggression
Let me be the first to tell you that most men love to be the aggressor or the leader (beware of men that are overtly aggressive). Too often women believe that the way to attract men is through aggression. If you have enough testosterone for the both of you, chances are, most men will not give you a second look (unless you’re looking for a beta type male). The trick is to assert yourself as being a successful, confident, and attractive woman who’s engaged in her life, enjoys getting to know others, but has boundaries and deserves respect.
- Men Love Some Healthy Mystery
You don’t want your vibe to come off as desperate and needy or you run the risk of attracting the wrong type of guy, another one. You may attract the type of guy who recognizes your vulnerabilities and use them to his advantage. If you’re really digging a guy and you’ve already put the idea out there, then leave it in his hands and see if he leads the way – i.e. Wait for him to approach you, call you later on, or ask for the first date. Stalking him from across the room and blowing up his phone with messages is not advisable. (This doesn’t mean that a woman cannot make the first move ask a man out, of course you can, just be mindful of your energy. It you’re too desperate or needy it will backfire. Be sure to also give him time and space to initiate contact and come to you).
- Be Receptive
No one likes a distant and cold female, the ice queen if you will. When a guy approaches you to flirt with you or pay you a compliment, even if you’re not necessarily attracted to the guy, you don’t have to send out the snooty or distant energy (that is unless he comes off really aggressive, overly-sexual or uncomfortable manner, then get the heck out of dodge) . The ideal woman should be appreciative of the compliments and receive the attention that a guy might be showing you.
Remember, when you’re in a public space you never know who is watching, and if you’re sending out a message that you can’t even be approached with a subtle compliment, chances are Mr. Compatible is going to look the other way.
OR worse….You could end up attracting the bullying antagonistic type that gets off on your “ice queen” vibes.
Or, if you’re particularly seductive in the way dress, talk and walk, you run the risk of being overlooked as a woman for a relationship. I know that this kind of judging isn’t nice, though let’s face it, we all judge (even just a little), so it’s important to be mindful or how you could be perceived. Sad but true.
Whether you’ve got your eyes set on a specific someone and you want to know how to make him want you, or you’re just interested in learning the best way to attract men, the answer is within. The energy you put out there for the world to see ultimately reflects the type of guys you will attract, or your energy will affect how they perceive you.
So if you’re looking to minimize the chances of dating a creep and/or wasting your time, work on cultivating the your most heart-centered, divine and captivating energy, and your luck just might turn around.