Casual sex for women is no longer looked down on as it once was.
There was a time when the realm of casual sex belonged only to men, and women were often naïve and unsuspecting “vessels” of meaningless sex. But today, even women are open to the idea that not every sexual encounter has to end in “I love you” or even a promise of a second date.
Maybe you’ve met a cute guy at a coffee shop, or you met someone at the gym, maybe you have a friend you’ve been texting quite often, you like but you don’t see him as a long-term thing. Or maybe you were on a night out and a gorgeous guy you’ve been flirting with just proposed that you come over to his place.
Casual sex can start anywhere, but the question is, should YOU be engaging in it?
Some women can pull off having casual sex without the post-hookup hangover. However, that’s not the case for a lot of other women…
Biologically speaking, oxytocin is the culprit for why a lot of women experience the agony of getting no call the next day. Oxytocin is a hormone that compels us to bond with someone. When we’ve had a great date with someone or we’ve just had an orgasm, oxytocin tells our bodies that we should build a connection with the person we were just with. But with casual sex, your partner may be there for the romp, but he may be out the door when you’re looking to cuddle!
If you’re in doubt as to whether or not you can face having casual sex with someone, try answering these questions:
- Am I having casual sex with this person because I believe that it can eventually lead to us falling in love and being in a relationship?
- Am I having casual sex because I want to prove that I’m attractive and likeable?
- Is casual sex just a means for me to keep a guy around, despite the minimal chance that this can blossom into a relationship?
- Is this about pleasuring my partner, and not necessarily receiving as much pleasure during sex?
- Will I be breaking any of my personal boundaries by engaging in casual sex?
- Is there a chance that my casual sexual encounter with this man could lead to more complications in my life?
- Will I be devastated if I never hear from my partner again?
If you’ve answered “YES” to majority of the questions above, then you may not be at the right point in your life for ‘no strings attached’ sex and that’s okay. It’s important to know who you are and what you’re comfortable with.
Casual sex, after all, should be something you can be completely relaxed engaging in. You and your sexual partner should have a clear and honest understanding about what your “relationship” is about. It’s not a one-way ticket to a relationship; instead, it’s a way for you and a man to experience pleasure without necessarily being emotionally invested in each other.
Some women find it easier to have a casual relationship with a man that likes them more than she likes him. This way she feels appreciated and genuinely liked, as opposed to feeling like all the guy wants is her body. That said – whether the man has deeper feelings for you or not, there should be no shame in embracing “no strings” sex if that’s all you really want.
Some women can do this with ease, some cannot! Know yourself and make healthy sex choices – check in with your physical, mental, spiritual and emotional sexual desires and gain a good understanding of what this means to you.
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