Is He My Soulmate – Should He Stay or Go?

Is He My Soulmate – Should He Stay or Go?

Everyone wants to find their soulmate and everyone deserves to find real love, healthy love!

Did you know that some people believe that every person we meet is a soul-mate because every person offers us an opportunity for our soul to learn and grow. That said, most of us think of a soulmate as the ultimate lover and partner – a person who we love, adore, cherish and they do us, and that is what this article is about… how do you know if you’ve met a keeper or not?

Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings wrote, “A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one.” In this modern age, this rings as true as ever. Though some ladies are lucky to find a keeper at the first try, the rest of us may not be so lucky. The problem is, how can you tell?

Here are a few ways to tell if you’re with the man to keep or the man to ditch:

The man to keep makes time for you:

Even if he’s often busy, he makes sure he spends some (or most) of his free time in your company. Whenever you’re the one who’s not available, he still makes an effort to give you a call or a text message to show you that he’s thinking about you.

  • Are you always guessing if you’ll see him again because he wants to “play it by ear?” Or are you always the one who has to rework your entire schedule just so you can see him? If so, ditch him!

The man to keep respects you:

You can tell he respects you by the way he talks to you and acts around you. He listens to your thoughts and feelings, even if he may not agree with them. He also makes sure that you’re comfortable in his company. Most importantly, he understands that “no” really means “no.”

  • If he belittles you, insults you, and does things that make you uncomfortable despite your repeated protests, it’s time to tell him to pack his bags, this guy ain’t your loving soulmate!

The man to keep celebrates your accomplishments:

When you’ve gotten a promotion or a top mark in class, he shares in your happiness. This shows that he is supportive of you, and the things that make you happy.

  • Does he always belittle your accomplishments or see them as an affront to his manliness? If the answer is yes, he probably has issues that you better steer clear of!

The man to keep introduces you to people who matter to him:

If you’ve met his parents, his siblings, and his close friends, then it shows that he is letting you into the more intimate circles in his life and may wish for you to be a part of it.  Plus points if you get along well with his mum!

  • The man who’s not worth keeping doesn’t even want to talk about you meeting his mates. He may only introduce you to a couple of friends, and they never seem to remember your name.

The man to keep is there for you:

Whether you’ve missed your train, had a bad day at work or just feel low in general, your man is a keeper if he tries his best to make you feel better. Though some men aren’t really experts on what makes a girl feel better, you’ll be able to tell if the genuine effort is there.

  • Needless to say, the man to leave only shows up when you’re in a good mood, and he’s suspiciously MIA when you’ve had a rough day.

If you’re guy is kind and considerate, he involves you in his life and has time for you, then you’re onto a good thing, he’s a keeper and he’s probably your soul-lover.  If he’s not these things then you’ve got to ask yourself – Have I learnt what I need to learn from this soul-learning experience, and what’s the best way to prevent more heartache and replace it with real love?

Is it time to acknowledge that there’s a problem that needs to be resolved? If you think you’ve exhausted all your efforts to try and make your relationship better, then it may be time to let it go, say goodbye, and be open to finding your true match, your soulmate.

Every relationship provides a powerful platform for learning and growing and at the same time it should feel healthy, connected and intimate. If it’s a constant battle or something feels “off”, then it’s probably not the real deal.

Please share your comments below the blog.

NP x


Nadine Piat

Nadine is a Professional Coach, Writer, Speaker and the Founder of Healthy You Healthy Love. Nadine's mission is to inspire women to live a life full of love and inner peace!

4 Comments

  • June
    November 22, 2016 1:22 pm

    Enjoyed reading this. It also helped me rate my own relationship and though he didn’t show all of this a year ago I can happily say he does show all of the qualities of the keeper. Thank you Nadine. I love your articles.

    • Nadine Piat
      March 3, 2017 2:11 am

      Hi June, I didn’t see your comment here until now. What a great message. You’re with a keeper and good for you for sticking it out. The risk paid off for you, phew! 🙂 This is rare… and how fabulous. xo

  • Linda
    January 10, 2017 3:45 pm

    I met a guy who I thought was really into me. After dating 7 months I thought It was going somewhere. He talked to his friends about me but I never met them. He was recently divorced but I started to feel he had an issues with people seeing us out. He always seemed happy and excited to see and be with me. But he never mentioned meeting his fiends or kids. I finally told him it was over. But I still think about him a lot. He’s even told me he misses me. But I’m not playing second fiddle to his life. I’ve since met a guy who I adore being with and he is so much more attentive and wants to be with me whatever chance he can get. Don’t settle!!! There are other guys out there worthy of you.

    • Nadine Piat
      March 1, 2017 11:02 pm

      Hi Linda, I apologise for the very tardy response. Thank you for your wonderful comment. It’s so important to know what you’re worth (a kind, loving and committed relationship) and what you truly need and want – you then allow the space for something better for you to come into our life. You did this! Good woman! I have actually been in a very similar situation to you (the almost divorced or just divorced man, and I have learnt and written about it). I hope that the relationship with the new man is still going strong – you deserve the most beautiful man 🙂 N x

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